I could not let the cycle continue. I decided, for me, for my ancestors and for my descendants, we’ve had enough. We’re all done here. It has gone something like this: Acknowledged the harm and hurt. Felt all the feelings. Brought the compassion inward. Felt more feelings. Held boundaries. Turned the compassion outward. Held myself. Saw flaws and shadows in myself. Held myself accountable. Saw hope for healing in myself. Did the work. Doing the work. See hope in my three babies. The way that we are choosing to parent and move through our lives with expanding awareness is detoxifying and decolonizing our lineage. For some of us, the gift of our parents’ flaws is that we have a roadmap for where we know we will not go. We can feel gratitude for knowing that and know that our best will be better.
Many of us joined the journey of parenting differently when we realized that the way we were parented had direct impacts on our trust, our coping, our ability to be interdependent with others. It’s never EVER too late to commit to a shift. I don’t care if your children are 1, 51, or not even “your” children, (all children are our children), or reparenting our Inner Niña/o/x. We woke up, now let’s show up to love
I envision a world in which we freely and readily spoke the language of the Inner Niñx fluently.
I envision a world in which I could express my activations, my wounds, my joy, my fears, my pain and know that the person hearing it could hold it, that they wouldn’t judge me, that they were not afraid of my shadow self.
I envision a world in which cacti shed their thorns so the world could experience their juiciness. (That’s how I see us- como nopales!) 🌵
I envision that having conversations around privilege, race, justice, gender, parenting, patriarchy, religion would flow differently if we could come from a place of having done the work to check ourselves, check what is coming from personal and ancestral wounds, check what is True, universal, and in alignment.
I envision a world in which we share this language of the corazón. One in which I don’t necessarily let my Inner Child lead, but one in which I can use the wisdom provided to me by my Future Abuelita Self and Madre Tierra to discern what would feel loving (as my Maestra Sylvia says), and to trust that voice.
I envision everyone holding a shared and rooted power in ourselves as individuals and as a collective. This is what this work has brought to me. This clear vision. And, as much as I know the power of this work for myself, I know the cost of not doing this work. I know how quickly I can sink into depression or helplessness if I don’t keep exercising this muscle. I know how quickly I can feel like a burden again.
I envision the benefit that my children will reap from this practice, modeling the commitment to Knowing oneself, dispelling toxic messaging brought in by oppressive systems.
I envision that normalizing Reparenting for parents will create a remembering of our worth, of what we need to thrive, and make us demand justice for our families and support for ourselves.
Today is the 🚨LAST DAY🚨to sign up for our Fall Latinx Parenting Professionals Intensive 🔥✨🔥✨
So far in the space we have:
💙Therapists who want to be more culturally sustaining
💚Teachers who want to be more healing centered
💛Students who want to move into careers that contextualize and not pathologize Latinx familias
🧡Healthcare professionals who know the system doesn’t always serve our people in respectful ways
💜Birthworkers like doulas who have seen the racism and white supremacy present in the birthing world and want to advocate for their Latinx clients
❤️Human beings who want to share in space with other human beings who hold the same vision for our comunidad
💕 Inner Children who want to be heard, felt, and seen not just as machines for capitalism but as humans who are done with the pinche burnout
Important to note that
🤎All those who sign up will receive a certificate, a 🐌 mail thank you, and a HOLDING & HEALING CIRCLE for Professionals being paradigm shifters in their roles
🤎Payment Plans are available
🤎You DO have to attend Live at least one full day to have access to the recording and materials
🤎You ARE able to receive CEU’s if you are in CA and match one of the designations
Protect your children. Teach them what is love can feel like vs what love is not. Yes, we must respect our elders but that does not mean suppressing our own emotions to satisfy their need to feel in power.
We know we can do better so we are doing it. It's hard but it's going to be worth It. Te lo prometo.
Sigue pa' lante! 💗
#LatinxParenting #EndChanclaCulture #RaisingFutureAncestors #DecolonizeOurFamilias #IJustWantMiGenteToHeal #TheCycleStopsConmigo...
In order to break cycles, liberate our people from colonial harms, and not have history repeat itself, we must practice Indigenous ways of healing.
When so-called "misbehavior" occurs, we should focus on healing and teaching. Breaking the cycle of choosing to punish is necessary as we get to the roots of what caused the "misbehavior".
Additionally, the labeling of this is from a power-over dynamic where someone gets to subjectively decide who is "good" and who is "bad". This breeds disconnection and diminishes opportunities for discovering ways of being that are in harmony with the vision we hold for this world. This is in alignment with nonviolence and liberation practice.
We know that an "offender", by this punitive society's standards, is usually labeled as a criminal. I've been taught, by Rainy River First Nations researcher Dr. Renee Linklater, that our way of thinking about these humans must shift to "someone who has caused harm". This way, we focus on who the offender is, and therein what their capacity or willingness for healing is, versus what they have done.
Similarly, by using the term "victim", we can opt to change this to a more descriptive "someone who has been hurt". This lets them know they are more than what was done to them, and that the harm that they experienced is valid and worth examining.
We need to break these cycles and it all starts with moving from a place of understanding actions versus punishment and pathology.
Our Professionals Intensive dives into this way more. We will be spending 8 hours exploring the ins and outs of how to best serve Latinx families specifically.
Registration closes THIS FRIDAY, September, 24th and space is limited. Payment plans available. 💖
#LatinxParenting #EndChanclaCulture #RaisingFutureAncestors #DecolonizeOurFamilias #IJustWantMiGenteToHeal #TheCycleStopsConmigo
Louder for the people in the back! 👂🏽
Stop 👏🏾 repeating 👏🏾 trauma cycles 👏🏾 by avoiding 👏🏾 inner 👏🏾 work! 👏🏾
Let me explain something. When we stay in avoidance of our shadows, when we stay comfortable with that cushy blindfold that prevents us from seeing children as whole beings, and when we stay in defense of the violence that WE experienced (not JUST physical, btw), the potential for our culture to walk into liberation diminishes in a big way.
Yes, be gentle with yourself as you bring light to those shadows and be so compassionate as others are on their paths. AND ALSO! Stay disciplined and, as best you can, in alignment with the vision of liberated familias. We begin this by getting really honest about what happened to us and our people. We proceed by being courageous to do it differently.
#LatinxParenting #EndChanclaCulture #RaisingFutureAncestors #DecolonizeOurFamilias #IJustWantMiGenteToHeal #TheCycleStopsConmigo #parentinghelp #parentingdoneright #parentinghumour #intergenerationalhealing #latinxart #latinxartist #latinxartists #decolonize #decolonizeart