Latinx Parenting believes passionately in shifting the paradigm of raising children towards creating a trauma-informed, healing centered, nonviolent and cultural sustaining approach where Latinx familias can nurture connection in their homes and culture in ways that support individual, family and intergenerational collective healing.
“THE MOVEMENT TO END CHANCLA CULTURE IS ABOUT HEALING AND RECLAMATION”
Chancla culture survives through the use of oppressive strategies—including corporal punishment, shame, and fear—to manipulate children into behaving to please adults.
We know, from research and memory for some, that the ongoing oppression of children causes significant harm to a child’s development and emotional development.
La Chancla is in reference to a sandal or flip-flop, and in Latinx culture, it is frequently referenced as having been used by our immigrant or Latina mothers to get children to change behavior by either threatening or actively using it to physically hurt us as children.
La Chancla and oppressive views of children, including our own inner children, is not actually part of our culture— it is what keeps our culture back. In Latinx media, there are countless videos and memes that are intended to be funny, but when you look at it from a child development and children’s rights perspective, they are normalizing violence against children. Chancla Culture thrives off of this normalization.
“I JUST WANT MI GENTE TO HEAL”
Dr. Manuel Zamarripa of the Institute of Chicana/Chicano Psychology, a teacher and someone I consider an elder in this personal and professional work of decolonizing our familias, has affirmed that many Indigenous communities believe children hold innate wisdom that needs to be honored. When we talk about decolonizing our families, we talk about returning to this understanding and treating children as whole and complete beings with many gifts and capacities.
Did you know that…
By the year 2050, 1 In 3 children will be Latinx. (U.S. Census Bureau)
Latinx children are at risk for more mental health outcomes five times more than their white counterparts. (McGuire & Miranda, 2014)
Thoughts of suicide are 8x higher for Latinx students who feel less connected and less communicated with within their families. (cibhs.org)
Frequent use of corporal punishment reduces risk of upward social mobility. (brookings.edu, 2014)
WE CAN DO BETTER.
For those of us that grew up on the receiving end of corporal punishment and experiencing the effects of Chancla Culture, this may bring up some feelings that we may or may not have dealt with before we became parents. This has been so normalized, that it makes sense that Latino comedians joke about it to thousands of people, that on Mother’s Day you’ll find brand new illustrations created in reverence of La Chancla.
Laughing at chancla memes and videos may give some of us Latinx people a sense of feeling seen and relating to that experience. It may be difficult to acknowledge that growing up in chancla culture caused harm, because so many of us have been raised not to question or “disrespect” our parents by challenging their choices.
Respect is an important value in our familias, and in our culture, the need to be respected and to provide guidance is often confused with the urge to create fear through punishment. However, by acknowledging that our parents didn’t have alternate tools or adequate information and resources, we are not disrespecting them. We are simply naming that it caused harm, and we are invited to reflect on whether or not we want to cause that for our children. There’s quite a bit of compassion we can hold for our parents once we understand where Chancla Culture comes from, and that their choices were usually not intended to harm, though the fact is that they often did.
This is a huge paradigm shift and takes ganas.
Our mission is to offer Latinx communities and its allies, family education that encompasses the cultural, socio-political and diverse needs of each family. We are transforming the culture of child-raising by educating, advocating, envisioning and inspiring families to end the cycle of violence towards themselves and their children through the practice of nonviolence, reparenting, connection, and community wellness towards liberation and thriving.
When we commit to our healing, whether it be for ourselves or for our families, we begin to understand that things don’t have to be either or, we live on intersectional planes, dualities are valid, complexities are the norm.
This is liberating because it frees us from thinking that acknowledging our own pain and trauma means betraying our parents. Boundaries, whether concrete or just energetic, are gifts to ourselves and to those who we are setting them with. There’s no shame in holding dualities. In fact, there’s a distinct freedom we can experience as we embrace them and embrace the vastness and richness of our experiences and healing process.
This movement is not just for Latinx Parents.
It is just as much for Latinx children, those that
Today is the 🚨LAST DAY🚨to sign up for our Fall Latinx Parenting Professionals Intensive 🔥✨🔥✨
So far in the space we have:
💙Therapists who want to be more culturally sustaining
💚Teachers who want to be more healing centered
💛Students who want to move into careers that contextualize and not pathologize Latinx familias
🧡Healthcare professionals who know the system doesn’t always serve our people in respectful ways
💜Birthworkers like doulas who have seen the racism and white supremacy present in the birthing world and want to advocate for their Latinx clients
❤️Human beings who want to share in space with other human beings who hold the same vision for our comunidad
💕 Inner Children who want to be heard, felt, and seen not just as machines for capitalism but as humans who are done with the pinche burnout
Important to note that
🤎All those who sign up will receive a certificate, a 🐌 mail thank you, and a HOLDING & HEALING CIRCLE for Professionals being paradigm shifters in their roles
🤎Payment Plans are available
🤎You DO have to attend Live at least one full day to have access to the recording and materials
🤎You ARE able to receive CEU’s if you are in CA and match one of the designations
Protect your children. Teach them what is love can feel like vs what love is not. Yes, we must respect our elders but that does not mean suppressing our own emotions to satisfy their need to feel in power.
We know we can do better so we are doing it. It's hard but it's going to be worth It. Te lo prometo.
Sigue pa' lante! 💗
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In order to break cycles, liberate our people from colonial harms, and not have history repeat itself, we must practice Indigenous ways of healing.
When so-called "misbehavior" occurs, we should focus on healing and teaching. Breaking the cycle of choosing to punish is necessary as we get to the roots of what caused the "misbehavior".
Additionally, the labeling of this is from a power-over dynamic where someone gets to subjectively decide who is "good" and who is "bad". This breeds disconnection and diminishes opportunities for discovering ways of being that are in harmony with the vision we hold for this world. This is in alignment with nonviolence and liberation practice.
We know that an "offender", by this punitive society's standards, is usually labeled as a criminal. I've been taught, by Rainy River First Nations researcher Dr. Renee Linklater, that our way of thinking about these humans must shift to "someone who has caused harm". This way, we focus on who the offender is, and therein what their capacity or willingness for healing is, versus what they have done.
Similarly, by using the term "victim", we can opt to change this to a more descriptive "someone who has been hurt". This lets them know they are more than what was done to them, and that the harm that they experienced is valid and worth examining.
We need to break these cycles and it all starts with moving from a place of understanding actions versus punishment and pathology.
Our Professionals Intensive dives into this way more. We will be spending 8 hours exploring the ins and outs of how to best serve Latinx families specifically.
Registration closes THIS FRIDAY, September, 24th and space is limited. Payment plans available. 💖
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Louder for the people in the back! 👂🏽
Stop 👏🏾 repeating 👏🏾 trauma cycles 👏🏾 by avoiding 👏🏾 inner 👏🏾 work! 👏🏾
Let me explain something. When we stay in avoidance of our shadows, when we stay comfortable with that cushy blindfold that prevents us from seeing children as whole beings, and when we stay in defense of the violence that WE experienced (not JUST physical, btw), the potential for our culture to walk into liberation diminishes in a big way.
Yes, be gentle with yourself as you bring light to those shadows and be so compassionate as others are on their paths. AND ALSO! Stay disciplined and, as best you can, in alignment with the vision of liberated familias. We begin this by getting really honest about what happened to us and our people. We proceed by being courageous to do it differently.
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