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About The Movement

The Vision

Latinx Parenting believes passionately in shifting the paradigm of raising children towards creating a trauma-informed, healing centered, nonviolent and cultural sustaining approach where Latinx familias can nurture connection in their homes and culture in ways that support individual, family and intergenerational collective healing.

“THE MOVEMENT TO END CHANCLA CULTURE IS ABOUT HEALING AND RECLAMATION”

How will we unfold our vision?

By ending chancla culture

Chancla culture survives through the use of oppressive strategies—including corporal punishment, shame, and fear—to manipulate children into behaving to please adults.

We know, from research and memory for some, that the ongoing oppression of children causes significant harm to a child’s development and emotional development.

La Chancla is in reference to a sandal or flip-flop, and in Latinx culture, it is frequently referenced as having been used by our immigrant or Latina mothers to get children to change behavior by either threatening or actively using it to physically hurt us as children.

La Chancla and oppressive views of children, including our own inner children, is not actually part of our culture— it is what keeps our culture back. In Latinx media, there are countless videos and memes that are intended to be funny, but when you look at it from a child development and children’s rights perspective, they are normalizing violence against children. Chancla Culture thrives off of this normalization.
End Chancla Culture
“I JUST WANT MI GENTE TO HEAL”
Dr. Manuel Zamarripa of the Institute of Chicana/Chicano Psychology, a teacher and someone I consider an elder in this personal and professional work of decolonizing our familias, has affirmed that many Indigenous communities believe children hold innate wisdom that needs to be honored. When we talk about decolonizing our families, we talk about returning to this understanding and treating children as whole and complete beings with many gifts and capacities.

Did you know that…

By the year 2050, 1 In 3 children will be Latinx. (U.S. Census Bureau)
Latinx children are at risk for more mental health outcomes five times more than their white counterparts. (McGuire & Miranda, 2014)
Thoughts of suicide are 8x higher for Latinx students who feel less connected and less communicated with within their families. (cibhs.org)
Frequent use of corporal punishment reduces risk of upward social mobility. (brookings.edu, 2014)
Latino mom hugging her son and a traditional doll

WE CAN DO BETTER.

For those of us that grew up on the receiving end of corporal punishment and experiencing the effects of Chancla Culture, this may bring up some feelings that we may or may not have dealt with before we became parents. This has been so normalized, that it makes sense that Latino comedians joke about it to thousands of people, that on Mother’s Day you’ll find brand new illustrations created in reverence of La Chancla.

Laughing at chancla memes and videos may give some of us Latinx people a sense of feeling seen and relating to that experience. It may be difficult to acknowledge that growing up in chancla culture caused harm, because so many of us have been raised not to question or “disrespect” our parents by challenging their choices.

Respect is an important value in our familias, and in our culture, the need to be respected and to provide guidance is often confused with the urge to create fear through punishment. However, by acknowledging that our parents didn’t have alternate tools or adequate information and resources, we are not disrespecting them. We are simply naming that it caused harm, and we are invited to reflect on whether or not we want to cause that for our children. There’s quite a bit of compassion we can hold for our parents once we understand where Chancla Culture comes from, and that their choices were usually not intended to harm, though the fact is that they often did.
Mom and daugther hugging covered with a rebozo

This is a huge paradigm shift and takes ganas.

Our mission is to offer Latinx communities and its allies, family education that encompasses the cultural, socio-political and diverse needs of each family. We are transforming the culture of child-raising by educating, advocating, envisioning and inspiring families to end the cycle of violence towards themselves and their children through the practice of nonviolence, reparenting, connection, and community wellness towards liberation and thriving.

When we commit to our healing, whether it be for ourselves or for our families, we begin to understand that things don’t have to be either or, we live on intersectional planes, dualities are valid, complexities are the norm. ⁣⁣

This is liberating because it frees us from thinking that acknowledging our own pain and trauma means betraying our parents. Boundaries, whether concrete or just energetic, are gifts to ourselves and to those who we are setting them with. ⁣⁣
There’s no shame in holding dualities. In fact, there’s a distinct freedom we can experience as we embrace them and embrace the vastness and richness of our experiences and healing process. ⁣⁣

This movement is not just for Latinx Parents.
It is just as much for Latinx children, those that
still live within us, and those we are raising.

Our obsession with @encantomovie continues over here at Team Latinx Parenting!⁠

⁠We have so much admiration for this film and the many hidden gems inside. ❤️⁠

One of the discussions we've had was about who the villain is? And for us, it was clear that it was intergenerational trauma, which manifested through Abuela's holding on so tightly in the hopes of controlling the sufferings of the past from repeating themselves. This led to her holding on to everything in life so tightly including the family members whom she loved and intended to protect to a crushingly high set of expectations. ⁠

⁠And if we really think about it, we all do this at some level or another. We all hold on so tightly trying to control outcomes that we lose sight of what is in front of us. We lose sight of the fact that we're here to live and be and love. That's not to say that we don't grow, but that we grow healthily. ⁠

⁠Remember, mi gente, you are the gift! Not who you were supposed to be, not how you were supposed to behave, not what you brought to the table, but YOU. You as you are, are the real gift.⁠



It's time we stop hiding parts of ourselves in the hopes of not disappointing our family and losing the affection of our loved ones, it's time to tear down the roles we picked up in the hopes that fulfilling them will get us the love we need. It's time to see all of ourselves and decide that we are lovable as we are. It's time to heal, mi gente. ⁠

And let's not hold on so tight, yeah? Let's shake "the crushing weight of expectations" and open up some room for joy!⁠

You are healing, you are breaking cycles, and you are beautiful! 🔥⁠

Wanna share? What patterns are you breaking? What roles are you dropping? 👇🏽⁠


#LatinxParenting #EndChanclaCulture #RaisingFutureAncestors #DecolonizeOurFamilias #IJustWantMiGenteToHeal #TheCycleStopsConmigo
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🎨: @sangre_indigena_art⁠

Our Brown Fatherhood series focuses on hearing from Latinx Brown Fathers who are combating machismo by reframing and reimagining masculinity.⁠ They're letting our children see that fathers feel too.⁠

Listening to these beautiful stories warms our hearts and we're so grateful for our guest speakers.⁠

Join us this Saturday at 11 am PST/2 pm EST for this FREE series via zoom. We'll be following each conversation with Q and A with our special guest. One of my all-time heroes and Maestros, author, Papá y Tata, and founder of the National Compadres Network Maestro Jerry Tello @la.cultura.cura!⁠

Link in Bio to RSVP. ❤️⁠


#brownfatherhood #dadgoals #fatherhood #parentinghacks⁠
#LatinxParenting #EndChanclaCulture #RaisingFutureAncestors #DecolonizeOurFamilias #IJustWantMiGenteToHeal #TheCycleStopsConmigo
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I've said this before and I'll say this again.⁠

Normalize love. ⁣⁠

Normalize healthy limits within unconditional acceptance. ⁣⁠

Normalize interdependence.⁣⁠

Normalize being their warmth and their home.⁣⁠

Normalize collectivist values. ⁣⁠

Normalize adult accountability. ⁣⁠

Normalize child honoring as our ancestors did.⁣⁠

Normalize safety.⁣ 💛 ⁣⁣⁠

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My commitment to reflecting, setting new intentions, learning, and shifting towards better practices is consistent and fierce. And honestly, I teach this and am intense about it because it keeps ME accountable to this movement to #endchanclaculture. ⁣⁣⁠


#LatinxParenting #EndChanclaCulture #RaisingFutureAncestors #DecolonizeOurFamilias #IJustWantMiGenteToHeal #TheCycleStopsConmigo #Parenting101 #Latinx
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